Why eye contact is important during conversation?

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The old saying that “eyes are a reflection of your inner self” holds true in most cases. There are a lot of meanings to eye contact. It can be a glaring look when a person is defiant or angry. A stare when we see something unusual about the person (staring obtrusively is rude!). A glazed over look when we are hopelessly in love with the person. It can also be a direct look when we are talking and trying to make a point.

What our eyes mean in communication

In all instances we use our eyes as a level of communication with the other person. We also avoid a direct look from another person if we have something to hide. The police use it as a means to detect if the person is telling the truth or not. So unless you are a very accomplished liar in most cases you will feel uneasy when you lie! Also sometimes a person feels uncomfortable looking another person in the eye due to shyness. This trait is also present with other signs of shyness such as a slight stammer and sometimes blushing. Otherwise it could just be that the person has a short attention span for anything you have to say.

Eye contact in events

Our eyes also reflect our sincerity, integrity and comfort when communicating with another person. Which is why having good eye contact while conversing is the indication that the communication has gone on well. How is eye contact related to events? Well, events are a form and means of communication, be it to send out a message, to educate or even to introduce. A good event management company will realize that eye contact during communication and speech are important.

Take for instance a presentation event where you have a speaker and an audience. One of the main items of importance during event planning will be the camera and projection screen. Another item of importance is the cameraman. One point to note is that you can obtain a good event management app to manage your checklist for all these items. Notice how during the presentation the cameraman will focus on the face of the speaker. On cue when the speaker makes a point, the cameraman will focus on the speaker’s eyes. This is to establish a contact between speaker and audience through the big screen so that the audience can feel a connection between the speaker and his or her audience. When you notice this in any presentation that you go to, make sure to take note of the event solution company and the cameraman! They have their act well rehearsed!

Eyes and the body language

Eye contact is a form of body language which is important during communication. How we present ourselves and communicate with others aside from talking is by our body language. Our body language speaks more than words which then logically accounts for a bigger percentage of our communication skills. Therefore our eyes speaks volumes about us and how we communicate.

Some points to remember while communicating and why eye contact is important are:

  • Surprise! Eye contact is a sign that you happen to be a good listener! Now what has the eye got to do with listening? When you keep eye contact with the person you are talking to it indicates that you are focused and paying attention. It means that you are actually listening to what the person has to say. That is where the saying “Don’t just listen with your ears” comes from. So “listen” more than talk, everyone loves a good listener especially the opposite gender!
  • Your eyes are a way of building a connection with the other person. This could mean you like that person. You feel comfortable talking and communicating with the person or you just are plain falling in love with the person! Either way, the eyes say it all.
  • Avoiding eye contact could also mean that you do not want the person you are speaking with to know too much. It could be that you may not like the person. You do not want the person to know you like them or you do not feel comfortable with that person. These are the negative impacts of avoiding eye contact. Sometimes the other person might read it wrongly and therefore produce a negative feeling towards you as well.
  • A big part of eye contact is building trust. A person with whom you are talking to will be more likely to trust and respect you as eye contact indicates an openness in communication. It also tells the other person “Hey, I am confident and self-assured, you can trust me”. So if you hope to land that big contract or project, be trust-worthy!

Practising good eye contact is a skill for effective and vital communication and is mostly under-rated and under-utilized. Keeping eye contact with the person you are talking to indicates interest and saying to the person “You are important and I am listening”. It is one of the “unseen” tools used in any event communication. An event management solution provided by Evenesis Dotcom will enable you to generate a survey and report based on your recent event. One of the questions you can post is how effective was your presentation. Did the presenter keep eye contact with the audience? Results of your survey will be useful in hosting future presentations events.

A great event management system should also be flexible enough for you to be mobile while you are busy organizing the event. Now we carry all sorts of mobile devices. An application that can be accessed from your mobile phone is a great way to keep in contact with your team. Evenesis applications are not just limited to event Malaysia but from any where in the world. So no matter where you are organizing an event, you can use your iPhone 3G mobile and the event solution to keep an “eye” on your team!

14 Comments

  1. Karen 13/12/2012 at 7:42 PM - 

    hahaha this is the funniest thing I ever read. Naaah, im just kidding – very helpful.

  2. creston 05/08/2014 at 4:46 AM - 

    It’s very hard for me to make eye contact with anyone,friends, family,co-workers,females and complete strangers I always look down or check the time on my watch or look over the person shoulders,I sometimes feel scared or nervous for no reason n I hate it if you have solution or reason why this may be leave comment in my email above please thank you…

  3. hanumanraja 07/08/2014 at 9:04 PM - 

    i always think that people are not interested with what iam taking so please send me some suggetions

  4. osmowachy 10/07/2015 at 11:58 PM - 

    intermigle n learn

  5. shivam pandey 06/02/2016 at 12:58 AM - 

    When we are looking for another person eyes then, how we can understand what he are saying..

  6. satish 27/05/2016 at 12:03 AM - 

    Dear sir/madam….the problem of eye contact started after reading communication skills…as I was practicing it eventually I observed that I I lost it and I’m juz staring at people….I’m unable to make eye contact..as a result I’m being misunderstood …so please help me…thank u…

  7. Maryann 30/11/2016 at 2:36 PM - 

    Being a psychologist i found it very nyc because it is the major too that i can use

  8. eoin mcmANUS 06/12/2016 at 7:09 PM - 

    HI plz reply

  9. Wali 07/02/2017 at 3:32 PM - 

    when I want to find the truth, I usually ask people to look at my eyes :-)

  10. Jane Love 24/03/2017 at 11:20 PM - 

    Ha ha ha. This is hilarious yet informative text. Some may disagree but then i get it – you are not me and hence don’t see as i do.

    Very well written article. This is really helpful for my presentation research on the link between eye contact and public speaking.
    Great post. Very informative.

  11. akshay 18/08/2017 at 8:02 PM - 

    hahahahahaha its very usefull

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